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Serenity Wrap-up #25 (Ditch The Guilt)

Wow, that was interesting. It turns out, declining to feel guilty about stuff gives you back time, stills (some of) the mental chatter, and helps you sleep a little better. That’s what happened to me, in any case, when my December mantra became a version of “oh well, too bad”.

I should just clarify, I’m not talking about committing crimes, mistreating others, stuffing one’s face in an entire chocolate gateau, or spurning all exercise in favour of Netflix Christmas movies. No, I’m referring to resisting those small external expectations which can rain down upon us at this time of year.

Serenity Wrap-up 25: Ditch the Guilt

In general, I’m lucky. November was hectic but, with a long haul family visit out of the way, my December schedule and task list eased considerably. I heard from some of you who feel under enormous pressure to buy, bake, make, try, drive or fly, and it sounds miserable. On my part, I enjoyed other people’s lights and gave more than one gift I wasn’t happy about. I did feel some guilt about the unnecessary sugar I ate, but so far I’ve exercised 15 times in December, which offsets that a little. And I’ve accepted one invitation I’m not wild about, but never mind, I might just enjoy it on the day.

So, while I didn’t stick entirely to my guilt-free guns, the mental freedom it offered was refreshing. I’m giving Ditch the Guilt 4 out of 5 stars.

How are you doing with regret, remorse and resentment? I’d love to hear these festive foes are taking a back seat for you this year.

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  1. Reply
    Jean |
    December 24, 2017 at 8:50 am

    Sounds like you did quite well! Chatted with someone on twitter the other day, Pauline, who needed to adopt this strategy. I took the conversation private (direct message) and gave her a link or two, but I’m not sure she’s anywhere near ready to give up meeting other people’s expectations. I hope she will soon, as she sounded as if it was a crushing burden.

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      December 26, 2017 at 10:01 am

      Oh Jean, I’m sad to hear about your Twitter friend. “Crushing burden” is an apt description, indeed.

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    Julie Valerie
    December 28, 2017 at 10:29 am

    I think I need to apply the “ditch the guilt” concept to many areas of my life. Such a waste of energy.

    Thank you for framing this concept the way you did. I see that I have two choices to make – guilt – or serenity. Serenity is much preferred!

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