Does this tip seem obvious to you? Don’t click away just yet. How many of us truly get our priorities straight and then walk the talk day in, day out? I know I don’t.
- First, you have to establish your priorities, which might involve an uncomfortable conversation with yourself or loved ones.
- Then, put the activities which support those priorities in your calendar. Block out slots and set reminders.
- Thirdly: defend that time fiercely, both from yourself and others.
If you say (for example), your family is a priority, don’t get caught late at the office four nights out of five. If you say your romantic relationship is important, don’t check your phone constantly during a date-night dinner. If you say you value your health, why did you watch TV last night when you could have walked, danced, stretched, or meditated instead?
My husband is a high priority for me on paper, yet I wonder if he knows it from the way I allocate my time each day. Maybe that needs to be a 2-week serenity topic all of its own…
Have you consciously listed your priorities? Is time for them in your calendar? Please share your tips!
A Spoonful of Serenity
Here are some powerful articles which might help with mindful priorities.
- This piece covers being present with loved ones and noticing wonderful moments.
- Linda Hawes Clever, MD, is an author and speaker who reminds us that our values should drive our decisions and how we spend our time.
- To defend your priorities, you’re going to have to say No. Here are some nice ways to decline… and some altogether sassier alternatives.