Here’s another Friday tip you can implement as we head into the weekend. With the current serenity topic asking for special awareness of our to-do lists, have you made a To-Don’t List?
By this, I mean: have you thought consciously about the things you may be asked to do, or tempted to do, which simply don’t fit into your life, don’t bring you joy, or are not a priority at present? Having a defined list of these can make it significantly easier to say No, either to yourself, or others. Often, these things show up as “should” (I should make dinner from scratch… I should join my mother-in-law’s book group…) and in my experience they may be repeaters, not completers (vacuum the bedroom… answer yet more emails).
Take a look at your to-do list, or think back to activities which took your time recently, and see what belongs on your To-Don’t List. For example, mine has:
- Don’t attend any parties, except those of close friends (I simply don’t enjoy them)
- Don’t iron sheets (I do iron the pillowcases though)
- Don’t buy groceries more than once a week (I barely stick to this)
- Don’t leave the house for a solitary errand
- Don’t watch cable TV (we only have Netflix)
But I know there are further things I could probably ditch. How about you? Are there things you used to do, or would like not to do, or hate to do but can’t imagine giving up?
A Spoonful of Serenity
And while you ponder your To-Don’t list, these resources caught my eye this week:
- A quirky (short!) video on Self-Compassion and its importance for those of us who tend to push ourselves too hard. Particularly good when dealing with setbacks.
- Similar to the idea of merging your to-do list with your calendar, this article invites you to time-block your week.
- Wonderful tips from Wellfesto on managing work + life.
On Monday, I’ll be giving an update on my efforts to lessen To-Do List Tyranny. I’d love to hear how you’re getting on with this second serenity topic, too.