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Serenity Tip: What Gets Noticed Gets Nudged

Have you heard the business mantra What gets measured gets managed?

Serenity Tip: Notice and Nudge

Here’s my serene take on that: to change a behaviour, thought or feeling, we first have to notice it. When we’re swept away by stress or tangled up in emotions, we only stand a chance of changing our reactions if we become aware of them first.

And then, once we notice our negative thoughts or feelings, we can start, ever so gently, to nudge them in a more positive direction. This week I’m busy Paying Attention and I’ve already caught myself being distracted, worrying about things which might never happen, and indulging in absolute thinking. Catching these thoughts is actually the hard part; once I’m alert to them, re-framing isn’t so tricky.

How about you? What do you need to notice, in order to nudge it?

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    April J Harris
    October 24, 2017 at 11:18 am

    This is such good advice, Pauline! I often get caught up in a swirl of negative thinking or worrying when there really is no need. Noticing it – and viewing it as an observer instead of as someone in the middle of it all – makes it much more manageable.

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      October 24, 2017 at 3:38 pm

      Yes, April. Only last weekend, I spent a few minutes worrying about something which was going to happen on Monday. The dreaded event never actually occurred!

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    Jean | DelightfulRepast.com
    November 9, 2017 at 8:51 am

    Pauline, I can apply this idea to a digital problem I have. When I got a new computer, I saw that not all my emails turned up on the new computer. Since some of the old emails were needed, I sat down to the old computer to sort it out. Turns out I had sent about 2000 emails to myself of things I wanted to check out “later.” I decided this habit of sending myself emails of links to things to read later HAD TO STOP. So I’m having to give myself a good talking-to several times a day, words to the effect that “You cannot read everything or know everything, just let it go!” I have to “notice” when I’m getting caught up in this bad habit.

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      November 9, 2017 at 3:40 pm

      I’m so impressed you noticed that, Jean! Sometimes I do the same thing, but not on the same scale. Now, I’m trying to save those messages as drafts instead, hoping that if they’re truly important, I’ll remember they’re there. But I should probably put more in Evernote… and, like you, also decide to just let it go.

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